Avoiding Political Conflict at the Barn. Is it Possible?

Politics can be a polarizing topic, both in the United States and internationally. The goal of most horse people is to visit their barn as a sanctuary and spend quality time with their horse, not to exchange in a heated political debate. Some people enjoy the opportunity to exchange ideas and beliefs while others prefer a quiet escape.

So that everyone has enjoyment at the barn, riders and barn staff should focus on clear communication, setting boundaries, and concentrating on their shared passion for horses. Here are some ideas.

Set a political "no-fly zone"

• Acknowledge that people have differences. It is important to recognize that a barn brings together people from diverse backgrounds with various political beliefs. A shared love of horses is the common bond, not political agreement.
• Make it a "politics-free zone". The barn is a sanctuary for many people. To maintain a peaceful atmosphere, it is best to leave political discussions and debates at home. Some barn managers explicitly state this policy to set clear expectations from the beginning.
• Redirect the conversation. If someone starts talking politics, you can politely change the subject. Suggested tactics include:
  • Change the subject to a horse-related topic, such as "How did your lesson go today?" or "Did you see how well my horse cantered?".
  • Say something simple like, "I'd prefer not to get involved in this conversation".
  • Announce that you are "tapped out" of discussing politics and would like to talk about something else.

Use personal tactics to avoid conflict

• Remember why you are there. The primary reason you are at the barn is to care for and ride your horse. Focusing on your horse's needs can help you disengage from unnecessary drama.
• Use "I" statements. If you need to address a specific issue, focus on the behavior rather than attacking the person. For example, instead of saying, "You are so argumentative," you could say, "I feel uncomfortable when this topic is discussed".
• Separate the person from the issue. If an issue arises, focus on solving the problem, such as tack clutter, rather than criticizing the person's character.
• Avoid gossip. Gossiping about the issue with others only triangulates and complicates the conflict. Vent to a trusted friend or therapist outside of the barn to avoid dragging others into the drama.
• Know when to walk away. If a conversation becomes heated, it is okay to end it politely. A simple, "Let's agree to disagree" or "I need to get back to my horse" can end the conversation and prevent further escalation.

Involve the barn owner or manager

• Consult the barn's code of conduct. Some barns have specific rules outlining expectations for communication and conflict. This can include clauses about social media conduct to prevent off-site drama.
• Address persistent issues with management. If a fellow boarder's political talk or actions create an unsafe or hostile environment, it is appropriate to speak with the barn owner or manager. Use factual "I" statements and stick to specifics rather than personal attacks.
• Seek mediation. If the barn owner is willing to intervene, professional mediation can help create a path toward a resolution that is acceptable to all parties.

The goal is for a place where we look forward to spending time. Let’s focus on what we have in common – the horses!

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